Post by Thehotone4u2 on Sept 17, 2017 11:35:30 GMT -7
What a nice video! It's a good reminder that everything will be alright without the organization dictating the most intimate parts of our lives.
In my case, I was seriously abused the the organization's judicial system thanks to my first JW wife and my brother providing a false witness. They were to root cause, but it became obvious in short order that the JW JC system itself was being abused and was flawed. I married my second wife on a fluke. It was not a marriage of love. She was a catholic. Her mother was in and out of a mental hospital with delusion of harming the wife's two kids. When she filed for guardianship, I married the 2nd wife just to give me legal standing to stand up for those kids. She was also a mental case who spent six months out of the year in a mental hospital getting messages from god to kill people, kids included.
Of course, the elders have a very narrow view of marriage. I was exonerated finally after 17 years of being falsely accused and kept in a DF state. One would think that a smart guy like me would have just woke up and walked but I didn't, yet. So, as often happened at that time of the year, my wife threw me out. The now teenage kids left her as well. As you know, the bible says when an unbeliever throws you out, you are under no obligation from that point on. But the elders ordered me to go back! Strike one. I didn't.
Then they started attacking my character, calling me to the back room to ask about incidences I had already proven to be lies when I was exonerated. They kept the record! Then called me a liar! Strike two.
Then late one night, I got a call from a sister. Either I give up $5,000 or I "would be disfellowshipped" for "suing a brother". Turns out you can't be DF'd for that. I was marked. Then the brothers called my son, at Bethel, and told him I was not in good standing and had me banned from attending his wedding. Strike three.
It became so very obvious that I would never be allowed to be one of JW's! Even if I wanted to! Even if I committed no wrongdoing! I would never be allowed to have a relationship with my JW children (now adults). My brother would never shut up.
So I walked out.
Years earlier I had attended law school for a short time (my father lived in San Fransisco and paid for it) after my first wife had her way with me in court. I went back to college and obtained my degree. Then I spent the better part of three years fighting those idiotic uneducated elders off! During that time, the fact of my permanent exit was written in stone. I was living in the twilight zone, where elders presumed they could set out to destroy my life over lies and non-biblical demands, and be backed up by the power of the entire brotherhood! They thought they enough power over me to say whatever they imagined with impunity. (1984 big brother!)
So I made a new life. I came up with a plan. I really had no choice.
I went back to college. I filed for divorce. I got what was left of the marital assets from the 2nd wife in the divorce. I continued to fight the congregation in court until they finally decided to leave me alone. My credit was bad for a while because of the ex, so I was stuck with an old vehicle, worked offshore so I would be housed and fed, etc. I fixed up the real estate and rented it out. Eventually, my credit rating was fixed and I refinanced a house and bought a much bigger and better place. I finally obtained a second degree and my career eventually took off. At one point I was bringing in over 35,000 a month. I met a NORMAL girl finally and married her. She's a nurse. We have intelligent conversations. She has a normal family. I loved her mother.
My step children adore me, and they turned out to be normal now that they actually had a normal person influence during their childhood. The 1st wife is on her 5th marriage, an elder, lol. The kids don't talk to her. That's her fault. Two of my own children adore me. My bethelite children shun me, but then they shunned me when I was pioneering, so it has absolutely nothing to do with whether I'm a witness or not.
I've made friends! I go to old man breakfast on Saturdays with guys I've known for more than 40 years now. We talk about current events and politics. My wife is a big shot so I'm invited to parties all the time that are catered with chef inspired dishes and attended by rich people. It required a suit and tie usually. I own about 40 ties. I have a fish tie, an american flag tie, and Christmas ties. I went golfing a couple of days ago with the head of a local hospital on his private course. He won. I just got back from Alaska, where I went to North Pole, Alaska and purchased 50 Christmas themed post cards and sent them around post marked the North Pole! I saw the salmon run in the Yukon river.
I felt guilty voting for the first time years ago, but I felt compelled because of several local issues on the ballot. Now, there are times when I'm politically active and make a difference. I did mailings a couple of times to get my way, and it worked. A local abusive and corrupt DA was voted out of office and I helped. One of my properties is in a little town that had a police department known for abuse and corruption. I railed against the special tax that paid for them and the entire police force was laid off as a result. 12 officers were replaced by two Sheriff's deputies for two years. 1200 people in this town and they had four fire stations! They closed three of them. The only bad result of those efforts is that my facebook page tends to be too political.
My plan took a LONG TIME to come to fruition, but I can now report that I've made it! I have a normal, calm, drama free life and I feel secure, satisfied, accomplished, and, well, normal. I can look at myself in the mirror and glow in the fact that I made my life what it is without the help of bad advice from self serving, uneducated megalomaniacs with an agenda. If I wound up broke and homeless on a beach somewhere, I would drink my beer and still love my life. Sometimes I am blessed with the opportunity to make a meaningful difference in someone's life. I like that.
The hard lesson I learned after having been raised in the truth is that life is fluid and constantly changing, and I am in charge of navigation; no one else. There's absolutely no shame when one decides to take those reins.
Every day people are straying away from the church and going back to god!-Lenny Bruce (1925-1966)
Thehotone4u2: I haven't had a day off in 2 months! Hopefully I'll get some time off starting later this week. I'll start posting again. Sorry guys!
Aug 10, 2019 21:07:20 GMT -7
Shimmerjet: we miss you hotone
Aug 14, 2019 21:22:48 GMT -7
Hungryhippo: Hey!!! how is everyone?? X
Aug 15, 2019 12:50:48 GMT -7
Thehotone4u2: Hey HH! How goes the battle!
Aug 17, 2019 18:24:35 GMT -7
Arlis Scott: Hi guys, I haven't been on for awhile, just thought I would send some greetings to everyone.
Aug 19, 2019 11:30:48 GMT -7
runawaybob: Has any one seen the Face book group setup in new Zealand jws4justice? There is a web page as well jws4justice.co.nz. What do you think
Aug 21, 2019 5:41:10 GMT -7
Shimmerjet: Hi runawaybob, yep I am a member of that group, are you a kiwi? I am too, started my jw journey in Upper Hutt then moved around the lower north island for a few years trying to fade,
Aug 21, 2019 12:40:24 GMT -7
Shimmerjet: Hi HH Hotone and Arlis hope you all doing ok x
Aug 21, 2019 12:42:13 GMT -7
Thehotone4u2: Greetings RunawayBob! I love that name! Arlis! Long time no hear! HH! Wow, the gangs all here!
Aug 22, 2019 20:26:27 GMT -7
Thehotone4u2: Shimmy? Oh...Shimmy!!!
Aug 23, 2019 22:54:15 GMT -7