Post by Thehotone4u2 on Jul 31, 2018 5:22:40 GMT -7
One of the elders who had allegedly df'd me, and allegedly signed a letter stating the charges called me for service one day! (30 years ago) So I cleaned his carpet and we talked and he, of course, had never met me, and never heard of me! We talked for a while. He was no longer an elder, and claimed he had never df'd anyone! The next time I cleaned his carpet I recorded our conversation. In the end, it turned out I had never been df'd, they made the whole thing up. When I was finally given a forum to prove beyond any doubt that they made it up, I was instantly exonerated and offered a position in the congregation! Wow!
I was mad at the brother for a long time, and he had nothing to do with it. Me bad.
The elder who married me - as in the marriage celebrant - is also disfellowshipped.
Mind you this happened a long time ago. At the gym back in about 2001 there, across the room he was working out on one of the machines. I had no idea he'd left the org. Went over and reintroduced myself. He was one of the good elders - that's why he left. Told me how over the years he noticed Watchtower magazines were downright contradictions to biblical writings. CO and DO not happy with his attitude. Elders meetings were being held without his knowledge cos they were having meetings about what to do with him.
It was so good talking with him. He told me so much of what life was really like behind the scenes. Because I'd left the org age 20 I was still unaware of a lot of stuff. He's such a decent, kind man. He was the one who told me about Crisis of Conscience and I bought a copy straight away.
When he and his family left it split the congo up. About half of the members left the org.
So S the ex elder came around this evening with another ex jw from the past, it feels good to connect to with people who are now free, S was saying how he was df for 9 years before he did any research and woke up.
No one understand what being ex jw is like except other exes, thank goodness there are so many avenues of support these days.
Post by Thehotone4u2 on Sept 11, 2019 20:51:24 GMT -7
I agree! I was out for years before I discovered JWR! I was hunting down something to counter an argument by my mother and tried the internet, and boom! There it was! I was scared to post for a long time, like months, but then I got the nerve to do it and before long I was a regular. Then boom, I connected on the internet and I'm finally out of the closet! That took 15 years! Geez!
Now I don't understand why the fear!
My adult kids were shunning me is why. I refused to make any statement as to my membership or status. I forced them to make it up out of thin air. Then when someone accused me of apostasy, for instance, I had the ability to call them a liar and demand proof! They didn't know anything about me at all. Making up stories to get me disfellowshipped would be an act of slander or reviling, a df'ing offense.
Every day people are straying away from the church and going back to god!-Lenny Bruce (1925-1966)
Thehotone4u2: I haven't had a day off in 2 months! Hopefully I'll get some time off starting later this week. I'll start posting again. Sorry guys!
Aug 10, 2019 21:07:20 GMT -7
Shimmerjet: we miss you hotone
Aug 14, 2019 21:22:48 GMT -7
Hungryhippo: Hey!!! how is everyone?? X
Aug 15, 2019 12:50:48 GMT -7
Thehotone4u2: Hey HH! How goes the battle!
Aug 17, 2019 18:24:35 GMT -7
Arlis Scott: Hi guys, I haven't been on for awhile, just thought I would send some greetings to everyone.
Aug 19, 2019 11:30:48 GMT -7
runawaybob: Has any one seen the Face book group setup in new Zealand jws4justice? There is a web page as well jws4justice.co.nz. What do you think
Aug 21, 2019 5:41:10 GMT -7
Shimmerjet: Hi runawaybob, yep I am a member of that group, are you a kiwi? I am too, started my jw journey in Upper Hutt then moved around the lower north island for a few years trying to fade,
Aug 21, 2019 12:40:24 GMT -7
Shimmerjet: Hi HH Hotone and Arlis hope you all doing ok x
Aug 21, 2019 12:42:13 GMT -7
Thehotone4u2: Greetings RunawayBob! I love that name! Arlis! Long time no hear! HH! Wow, the gangs all here!
Aug 22, 2019 20:26:27 GMT -7
Thehotone4u2: Shimmy? Oh...Shimmy!!!
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