The Female Experience In The Organization Jul 13, 2016 5:07:32 GMT -7 Shimmerjet, Thehotone4u2, and 4 more like this
Post by crimsonsnow on Jul 13, 2016 5:07:32 GMT -7
Over on JWR there was a board for women and girls to share their experiences of sexual discrimination, misogyny, sexual abuse, rape & violence.
I would like to create a space here for us to tell our experiences, a space where we can feel safe to offload our burdens, a space where we can listen, support each other and have our experiences validated (maybe for the first time). This could be from within the organisation or outside of it. It can also be a space to share experiences of injustice at the hands of judicial committees, and the mishandling of crimes by the organisation.
Please read the following if you are considering responding to any post someone has made on this board:
As so often happens, when women and girls speak about the abuse they’ve suffered at the hands of men, there can be response of “Not all men are like that”. I would like to point out that we do not need to be reminded that not all men are like that, we know that.
Here is a journalist’s opinion on why it is unnecessary and unhelpful to take a defensive stance when discussing women’s issues. He was writing in response to the Notallmen hashtag that was used as a derailment tactic in social media debates –
Writer Phil Plait wrote that the hashtag was not "an unexpected response. However, it’s also not a helpful one.” The reasons he gave are that -
"For one, women know this. They already know not every man is a rapist, or a murderer, or violent. They don’t need you to tell them.
Second, it’s defensive. When people are defensive, they aren’t listening to the other person; they’re busy thinking of ways to defend themselves...
Third, the people saying it aren’t furthering the conversation, they’re sidetracking it. The discussion isn’t about the men who aren’t a problem... Instead of being defensive and distracting from the topic at hand, try staying quiet for a while and actually listening to what the thousands upon thousands of women discussing this are saying...
Fourth—and this is important, so listen carefully—when a woman is walking down the street, or on a blind date, or, yes, in an elevator alone, she doesn’t know which group you’re in. You might be the potential best guy ever in the history of history, but there’s no way for her to know that. A fraction of men out there are most definitely not in that group. "
In response to the hashtag #NotAllMen, an anonymous female Twitter user created the hashtag #YesAllWomen, to express that all women are affected by sexism and misogyny, even though not all men are sexist.
The ubiquity of misogyny we experienced in the organisation has lasting effects on our lives. The privileges brothers have is such a fundamental part of how they experience reality that it can be invisible for them; however, for sisters, those privileges, and the lack of any equality, are extremely visible. The organisation is a hierarchical structure, with no opportunity for equality. This leaves a situation ripe for abuse and exploitation. The governing body’s response to the crimes that are committed and mishandled makes their position clear – they will not implement procedures to safeguard children and women from abuse.
The accounts in this thread could be distressing for some.
National Helplines and Support
Australia – Rape Crisis 1800 424 017
1800RESPECT (National sexual assault, domestic family violence counselling service) – 188 737 732
For those affected by the Royal Commission 1800 211 028
New Zealand – Domestic Violence Crisis Line 303 3939
UK – Childline 0800 1111
Rapecrisis.org.uk 0800 802 9999
National Domestic Violence Helpline 0808 2000 247
USA – RAINN 1-800-656-HOPE (to connect to a rape crisis center near you)
Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)